6. Connecting with Your Essential Nature, Mourning Ego-Death and Stepping Into Your True Self with Acupuncturist Christina Cecconi

Have you gone through life ticking off all the right boxes?

Your life is as you believed it should be. 

Career, relationship, home, kids...you invested in all that external structure that you believed would make life feel stable and secure. But somehow all the right boxes don’t add up to you feeling connected and whole. You’re starting to wake up. 

Meaning...you are finally starting to pay attention to your body. You are ready to stop apologizing for taking up space in your own life. You are realizing that you are holding the pencil and that you have a choice in how you write your story.

Coming home to yourself, to your True Self, is not a process of going *out there* to find her. It’s also not about rearranging the circumstances of your life to entice her in. It’s about recognizing that she’s been there all along. 

Bringing all your parts back together - from hollow to whole - means forgiving, celebrating, admitting, accepting and loving who you are.  

Coming home to your True Self is not a sunshine and rainbows experience. In fact, it will require you to attend a thousand funerals of the person you used to be. But doing so means that you will finally feel whole and complete exactly as you are no matter how the external circumstances shift. 

Here’s a glance of what you’ll learn from this episode: 

• The adaptive role of the Ego 
• The attachment we have about particular roles and narratives in our lives
• How career and relationships transitions are a form of Ego Death
• The liberation in knowing who our True Selves are

Christina Cecconi's Website // Instagram
Kat Lee's Website // Instagram

Resources Christina Talks About:
Eckhart Tolle's Books - 

• The Power of Now
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Kat HoSoo Lee is an Emotional Alchemy Coach, Spiritual Business Mentor and host of The Emotional Alchemy Podcast.

She loves playing in the space where science and spirituality converge because this is where we get to experience emotional alchemy. In her work, she educates space-holders about somatic physiology and environmental biology so they can deepen their practices of listening and presence which ultimately helps them expand their capacity to hold space for others.

As a Spiritual Business Mentor, she guides soulful entrepreneurs to approach their business as a spiritual practice. The work bridges the emotional landscape with practical tools which allow them to cultivate businesses that are rooted in conscious values, relational marketing and purposeful service.

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Chapters

• 2:36 My experience of coming home to my True Self
• 3:25 Overview of the episode
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• 6:00 Introduction to Christina
• 8:50 The wisdom of asking questions
• 9:29 Christina asks the audience: “Who am I?”
• 9:38 Invitation to write down 3-5 words that first pops into your head to the question "Who am I?"
• 12:09 Identification of labels, careers, roles
• 15:07 Kat ask Christina: Why do folks attach to particular narratives?
• 15:35 Christina talks about the question that we are asked as children “What are you going to be when you grow up?”
• 19:56 Kat asks “Who are you when you are sitting in a room by yourself?”
• 20:27 Ego is the mental construct that we make for ourselves about our identity
• 23:30 Ego is a survival mechanism
• 26:58 Identity politics
• 28:25 Yin/Yang + Duality
• 30:30 Christina: “Who is the who who can ask you who you are”
• 31:48 Disneyland as a practice in narrative construct
• 34:00 Playing as children is testing empathy
• 36:10 If your mental construct dissolves, you don’t die.
• 39:05 Christina’s Ego Death + career change
• 46:05 Separating out the projection of others
• 48:06 Kat to Christina: “What was happening on the body level?”
• 54:08 Every role that we take on, we learn things so none of the roles are mistakes
• 55:22 Kat’s Ego Death + Relationship Change
• 1:01:10 Mourning your Ego Death
• 1:02:39 Self Confidence and Self Worth are 2 different things
• 1:04:28 Reflection of the difference between Guilt and Shame
• 1:05:20 You don’t need to blow up your life
• 1:09:00 Invitation to go back to your list
• 1:09:46 Eckhart Tolle: “What a liberation to realize that I am not the voice in my head.”
• 1:11:55 How does language shape our experience of identity?
• 1:13:55 Christina’s Left Foot Guided Visualization
• 1:17:34 Screenshot and tag me on Instagram to continue the conversation